So, some of you parents might understand this: when Addy was born 5 years ago, it felt VERY weird to be head-over-heels in love with our absolutely perfect, lovely, beautiful bright-eyed baby girl… and at the same time look at her face and say to the port wine stain, “Woah, that’s gotta go!” Weird.
It brings on some mom-guilt (and dad-guilt, I’m sure). How could I not think that every single one of her features was perfect and sweet and beautiful?? I was planning to zap one of those features clean off! Telling her she’s beautiful and perfect, while removing a distinguishing mark…?
Obviously, I have no regrets for treating the stain, and I’d do it all again in a heartbeat. But there’s just something odd about feeling the *exact same* “Woah!” that you later dread everyone *else* feeling when they see your kid. …Anyone else know what I mean?
Posted on August 15, 2013, in 3. Addy Stories & Experiences and tagged Parenting. Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.
I SO know what you mean!! I had the EXACT same feelings and tingles of guilt when G was born.
I feel the exact same way about Syvlie’s PWS. It is hard not to feel guilty for loving everything about her and thinking she is perfect, but then simultaneously taking steps to change something very distinguishing about her face. Thanks for posting.